Tag Archives: Sex & Gender

What is Sex? Your Number is Nothin’ but a Number.

16th
Apr. × ’10
By Rachel R. White

I used to keep a tight mental-list of the number of people that I’d slept with. Awake at night, I’d go over that tab, searching  for faces or bodies I’d surely forgotten. It gave me some a strange comfort. Some women pride themselves on their vast shoe collections. I took delight in my veritable rainbow [...]

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Under the Influence of Ovulation or Getting an IUD

9th
Apr. × ’10
By Rachel R. White

Uterus Plush by Vulva Love Lovely When I was in high-school I took free samples of the pill. And I made sure I took one everyday.  I had a friend who never seemed able to remember hers. She’d leave a whole weeks worth in the pack then spend hours throwing up, after taking them all [...]

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Anal Self Esteem + Pleasure

1st
Apr. × ’10
By Rachel R. White

My mother always told me, “Don’t have butt-sex. No, don’t ever do it!” she’d caution, arms flailing, playing her I’m-a-registered-nurse card. “That area was NOT made for that!” “Have you ever done it?” I would slyly inquire. To this, she’d give a huff and an almost believably-acted, “No!” At the time, I hadn’t done it [...]

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The Hook-Up Culture & Honesty

5th
Mar. × ’10
By Rachel R. White

Just as I was writing my post about the hook-up culture and death of dating, the feminist blog-sphere was being lit up. In this corner the old argument “is the hook-up generation bad for girls?” had been dug up from the bin of tossed around ideas, like a discarded dress with shoulder-pads finding itself once [...]

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Safewords vs. Communication

19th
Feb. × ’10
By Rachel R. White

Most of my relationships haven’t had safe-words. Now, I know about “green, yellow, red”.  Or: “Yes”, “give me a breather”, “stop now”. The first time I had anal sex, it was a decision made in the moment. He suggested, and I wanted to prove that I was open minded and adventurous in bed. And really, [...]

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Jilling Off

29th
Jan. × ’10
By Rachel R. White

There is something in the past of my relationship that I’m not proud about, but I’ll go ahead and say it: I used to feel a tinge of jealousy when Ned would masturbate. It wasn’t full on anger, or conscious envy, but it was there. I could come up with a million reasons why: I [...]

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The Asexual Dynamic

8th
Jan. × ’10
By Rachel R. White

My Story on Asexuality is live on Sexis! “…If appearances of asexuals on the daytime talk show circuit has shed light on anything, it’s that asexuality is a hot-button topic. “There’s a fascinating phenomenon,” says Jay. “If I talk about my asexuality, it suddenly puts the spotlight on the sexuality of the person I am [...]

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Gray Areas of Sexual Consent

2nd
Dec. × ’09
By Rachel R. White

photo by roni river Rape is an unwieldy word. It is pointed, weighty, the air of a threat seems inherent. Images of back alleys and shadowy figures are inevitably conjured. Date rape has it’s own precise picture as well, the backseat of a car with a nice looking guy — crying, screaming “no.” So when [...]

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Little Plastic Rings: The Ethos and Eros of Foreskin Restoration

23rd
Nov. × ’09
By Rachel R. White

An article that was written a while ago has finally gone live! This piece is on foreskin restoration, a DIY technique to manually restore foreskin lost to circumcision. “On the L in Chicago, an average thirty-something man sits quietly in his seat. Suddenly a little plastic ring falls out from his pant leg and rolls [...]

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Podcast: David Jay’s Asexual Perspective on Intimacy

18th
Nov. × ’09
By Rachel R. White

rabbit_write_06 (mp3 download 18mb) Show Notes Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. Asexuals are not anti-sex, they just could not care less about having it. David Jay is the founder of AVEN (Asexual Visibility and Education Network) and is arguably the person who single-handedly whipped together the asexuality movement. In this segment the basics [...]

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