Take Lindsay Lohan and her obvious relationship with Sam Ronson. Their life behind hotel doors has become something of a hot topic. All we are hearing is OMG Lindsey is lesbian, gay, gay, gay. Though, before all of this Lindsay was kinda out– as bisexual. Lilo choose bi for her orientation on her myspace page. There is this notion, like with Lindsey that when you are bi and with someone you become whatever your assigned sexuality is for that specific relationship. But, just because I am dating a guy doesn’t mean I am not still attracted to women. Maybe bisexuality is to muddled these days, too misunderstood, too mainstream.

There is no denying the bad rep of bisexuality. Sorry bi’s, but we are often not viewed as a valid sexuality. We’ve been exploited in all that Girls Gone Wild mess and became the face of a reality dating show where female and male contestants ate animal peen to win the affection of a naked myspace girl. It angers me, but I don’t see a community for us. Maybe we haven’t created one that is strong enough. It sucks because most of the bi people I know are pretty rad.

But what if there really is something to questioning bisexuality? I know a lot of people who have fantasized about/hooked up with members of the same sex  that don’t identify as bisexual. I can get behind that if it is because of a lack or better or truer option.

I am all for a sexuality that is more fluid, more forgiving, with room to go where (and with who) you want.

Pansexuality is one option that allows for a broader definition of sexuality. While bisexuality translates as the attraction to two genders, pansexuality is the sexual attraction to “all“ types of people regardless of gender. This allows for a purely aesthetic attraction to people as well as to those who are transgender, androgynous or inter gender. It is the desire for someone regardless of their gender identity or biological sex. I admit there is something alluring to instead of hovering in the middle of the sexuality spectrum, to occupy it is a whole.

Polysexuality is another route. The prefix poly meaning “many” as opposed to the “all” of pan.

Poly and pansexuals are also allow for the idea of attraction to non human things, incorporating the idea that one can be turned on by an experience, an idea or a characteristic. Which is kind of cool, after all isn’t everyone sometimes turned on by non living things? Whether it be skinny dipping, leather, latex, your lover’s perfume… your lover’s pee.

Besides what other sexuality is covering the eroticisms of now? Group sex, techno sexuality (attraction to robots) and even sex toys all allow for sexual experiences that color outside of the man-woman lines. In her essay “Bisexualty and and the eroticism of everyday life” Majorie Garber says “bisexuality and bisexuals put into question the viability of a politics of identity at all….what may be on the horizon is a recognition that sexuality is far more complex than previously realized.” I say, fucking yeah.

I regress, Is bisexuality dead? It feels pretty stagnant as a sexual orientation to me right now. But it’s gotta be rolling in it’s grave over Katy Perry.