It’s a round-up of reader questions! I answer each one in a short (1-2 min) video wearing a variety of outfits. Watch a few, watch them all or watch them all at once to experience the clattering of my voice create psychedelic music. Okay, maybe not.
If you don’t see your question here, no fear, there is one more video round-up coming next week. And if you have something to get off your chest askrabbit@rabbitwrite.com
Is there something I missed or got wrong? Help out these readers out and add your advice in the comments. 
“I Can’t Come with my Boyfriend.”
“How Do I Get Over Exes and Past Relationships?”
“I am a Femme Lesbian who had sex with my Straight Lady Friend. AHHHH!!!”
“Why Can’t Straight People Talk in These Discussions on Gender Identity?”
2 Questions: “Is sex sometimes painful?” & “My Vagina is as Dry as the Sahara.”
“Do I Need to Come out as Bi? How should I do it?”
“How do I become a Sex Journalist?”
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4 Comments
The how do I come out as bi question is pretty ridiculous. Maybe in 2004 it was relevant, but I can’t believe there are people without the strength to do it. The gay thing I understand, but bi? Really?
Heya Rachel,
I don’t so much have a question, it’s just sort of an interesting situation that I’m exploring and I’m hoping you may be able to lend some of your knowledge. So here it is,
A very close friend of mine is a fairly effeminate man, I’ve always suspected he may be gay. He says he’s straight, however, he is most attracted to women who are/look like lesbians. I’m a straight woman, and although I am quite feminine, I also identify with masculinity in many ways, and the men I find most attractive are often/look gay. Him and I also have a tangled sexual relationship and attraction. This really got me thinking about bisexuality and sexual/gender identities but I can’t really place it.
Do you have any thoughts on this? I just think it’s so fascinating.
Thanks, I absolutely adore your blog!
Mad Black.
C.S., clearly: yes!
Mad, I love this inquiry. I also go for the femmey chaps and I wonder if it’s because I can be quite masculine myself. I think the heart of it though is that any blind adherence to a gender role isn’t going to do it for me, isn’t going to be interesting, because I’ve done so much work on my own gender. And coloring outside the lines a bit, so to speak, shows that they’ve at least thought about it a bit
I am an 18 year old virgin who is considering entering a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship with a boy whom I had feelings for in the past. We trust each other and we are sexually attracted to each other. Despite the stereotypes associated with virgins, that they don’t understand sex, I am very much in control of my sexuality. I know what I like and what I want and am not looking to fill an emotional void. I am under no delusions or expectations that this will lead to a relationship. My reason for considering this is because I’m curious about sex and I want the pleasure it brings. In a lighter sense I want to learn how to be good in bed. However, I’m not entirely sure that I can engage in casual sex without the aforementioned feelings returning, or whether I am overestimating my ability to detach myself from what I know is an emotionally charged, vulnerable arena. There is much discourse about friends with benefits and that they always end badly, but I wanted to know your opinion, especially in relation to virgins? And your response to this particular scenario?
Thanks, especially for having such a trailblazer of a blog,
Abbey